From renowned family therapist William Doherty, this book helps pinpoint hidden marital problems and take positive steps to stay close and connected every day. You'll learn to break free of such common traps as confusing desires with needs, applying the trade-in-the-old-model consumer mentality to your spouse, or becoming overtime parents instead of full-time partners. You'll get suggestions for creating relationship rituals that stand the test of time. Whether you're a young couple who wants to hold tight to happily-ever-after, or longtime marrieds on the brink of a breakup, you can fight back to restore a marriage worth saving. This book shows how.
"This book should be required reading for all married couples, and even for those engaged or considering marriage so the many pitfalls and misconceptions so prevalent today can be hopefully avoided." - Robert Gray, NJ
"This book single-handedly turned my marriage around. After many long months of soul-searching and analyzing my marriage, my life, and what I wanted, I stumbled upon this book at the library. Boy, did it open my eyes! Doherty outlines how our society undermines marriages today and how we truly must take back our marriage from the hostile consumer culture. He made me relize that we can't just consider what WE want personally, but rather what is best for the mariiage-- there's you and me and then there's the MARRIAGE -- three separate entities. This book should be required reading for couples before they tie the knot. We'd probably end up with far fewer divorces. And for anyone who is already in a failing marriage. I highly recommend reading this book. It just may change your thinking... I know it did mine." - Midwest Book Lover, Ohio
The ToDo Institute also recommends
Deliberate Love and
Naikan: Gratitude, Grace & the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection.